Kids – you won’t always have to obey your parents!!!

Hey Kids!  I’ve got great news for ya.  You won’t always have to obey your parents!

Yuup.  It’s true.  I promise – you’ll be free soon enough.

Hey Parents!  I’ve got terrible news for ya.  You’re kids won’t always have to obey you!

Say what???

Yuup. It’s true.  They won’t be under your authority for long.

God calls children to obey their parents.  Why?  So that it may go well with them and that they may live a long life on the earth.

What both my kids and I often forget is that kids won’t be children forever.  Then what will our relationship look like?

The answer made it in God’s top ten.

Honor your mother and father.

It doesn’t say obey.  It says honor.  That’s an entirely different beast.

I’ve drawn a little diagram below to illustrate what I mean:

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Let’s say your kids are uber healthy and live to be 100 years old (only because they were sugar-free, gluten-free, non-GMO vegans – who never once ate bacon).

Look at the rough number of years God puts kids under the authority of their parents. It’s really not that long when you think of an entire lifespan.

But while you’re the kid, it’s easy to loose perspective and think you’re going to have to live under your parents rule forever.

It’s just as easy as the parents to forget that our God-given authority (to require their obedience) is so that they are fully equipped to enter the world.  Our investment in their lives as authority figures is a short season.

Then the diagram changes perspective:

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As parents, of course we will still give advice, counsel, our opinions – but it’s entirely up to our grown kids to decide what to do with our wisdom.  And yes, that mean’s they can tell us no thanks and go off and make a mess of things.  Or maybe they’ll do it better than us?  God is really the only one who knows.  He just asks that they honor their parents in the process.

I have drawn and referred to this diagram with my kids many times.  Especially after eye-rolling questioning of my parenting decisions.

I want them to keep in the forefront of their minds that:

  • This is a VERY short season of their entire life, and it WILL come to an end.
  • They have a choice of how they will live under our authority.
  • They can choose to humble themselves and learn as much as they can while they are still in the safety of the nest.
  • Or they can push back, pridefully think they know better, and coast until they move out and can make their own decisions.

Either way they choose, they will ALWAYS be under some kind of authority.  That is something that none of us ever grow out of.

  • We are under authority when we drive down the street and the red light tells us to stop.  We can, however, choose to ignore that light and hope for the best.
  • We are under authority of our employer – even if we make it to be top dog.  But even then we aren’t autonomous.
  • We are still under the authority of the law – if we choose to ignore it the boys and girls in blue have some shiny silver bracelets to put on us…

Ultimately, we are all under God’s authority – those who obey it and even those who don’t.  We don’t have to acknowledge it for it to be in place.

The point of all this is for our kids to remember that authority isn’t a bad thing.  It can be abused, but it is inherently in place for our good.  It was God’s design in the first place.

And as parents, we need to remember that our season to be parents is super-short. We have a small window in their little lives in which to invest.  That empty nest will be there soon enough…(Bahamas anyone!?!)

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